Many relationship professionals say the best way to make a marriage last is to, “never stop dating your spouse”. What does this mean exactly? Dating is over when it becomes a marriage, isn’t it? No, it’s just the opposite actually. Dating is what got you together in the first place; it’s what made you fall in love… so, it will certainly keep you together. If you think about it, this is a great plan. The happiest couples are the ones who always make time for each other, and that’s why the dating phase is so important in marriage. A regular “date night” can simply keep the excitement and emotions flowing, so your relationship never gets stale.
Autumn is such a romantic season too, so this is the best time to get back into it. Centered on family, ending the year, and staying warm, there are so many adorable dates just waiting for you. Make a list of things you’d like to do and compare them with your spouse’s list. You may agree on most, but some might take more persuasion. To help inspire romantic ideas for your next date, we’ve prepared a list for you to try. If you’d like to add to our list, just let us know in the comments below and we’ll update it!
Visit a Cider Mill
Many areas have a cider mill less than an hour away. During autumn, these establishments typically offer tours, hot cider, cider donuts, events and much more. Absorbing the scents and sights of fall can deliver the feeling of harvest season, bringing you closer together.
Go Apple Picking
In some cases, you can go apple picking at Cider Mills. If not, most local farms allow you to pick from their trees for a small fee. This is a great date because you will inevitably discuss what you’re going to do with all the apples you grab. This conversation starter will leave you learning new things about your significant other and planning future dates.
Get Lost in a Corn Maze
A corn maze is an autumn staple, and it’s a productive date because you need to communicate properly and work together to get out of it. Since you’re on a date, you’re less likely to argue about which way to go or how many times you’ve gone down one path. This scenario is ideal for couples who want to learn how to keep the romance in stressful situations.
Go on a Haunted Adventure
Few things will bring you closer to your significant other, than fear. Don’t opt for the crowded commercial haunted houses. Instead, look up a local haunted area or tour. Some mansions or buildings with a dark history will offer special events around Halloween. Something about it being real makes it much more frightening, which means you’ll be hugging and comforting each other often.
Choose Pumpkins & Decorate Them
Shop for pumpkins and discuss how you’ll decorate them for the season. Share ideas from painting and glittering to carving and stenciling. This will help you discover and appreciate your significant other’s artistic tastes.
Attend a Sporting Event
Autumn is premier sporting season. Football is a popular American past time in fall, but many people love hockey just as much. Try to find affordable tickets for a football or hockey game this season. The comradery that brings cities together will certainly bring you two together. Rooting for the same outcome together helps remind you that you still have many things on which you can agree.
Cook Dinner & Watch a Scary Movie
Cook a dinner together and watch a scary movie. This date is affordable, and it still counts as designated alone time. Even though you’ll be staying at home, dress up as if you were going to a restaurant… it helps set the “date” mood. Cooking together is a great way to boost communication skills and learn new things. Choose a scary movie for after the meal to ensure cozy autumn cuddling.
The Two-Person Book Club
Agree to read the same book over one week. When you both have a day off… plan to discuss your thoughts and opinions on the book. If you happened to choose a book with a film adaptation, you can watch the movie together as well! This is a great way to broaden your horizons and share opinions with one another.
Shop for Winter Clothing & Outerwear
Soon you’ll both need a winter jacket, gloves, and a hat. Go shopping together and help each other select items. This date is adorable because you get a preview of your snow bunny! You can also stop each other from purchasing an unattractive or undesirable item.
Make a Seasonal Playlist Together & Go for a Drive
Work together and create a playlist of your favorite seasonal songs. We recently posted an autumn playlist if you need inspiration for fall music. However, this should be a personalized playlist. So, make sure you include songs that touch you and remind you of autumn. Once you have both selected your favorite music, bring the playlist with you on a nighttime drive. The relaxing nighttime view of the road coupled with the music will have you two feeling like it’s the first date.
Whichever dates you choose, remember the importance of pursuing and caring for your significant other. Frequently doing the things you did in the beginning keeps the fire burning. Happy Dating!